Do not speak to me of sorry and forgiveness. I am not interested in any kind of energetic exchange at that level.
I am more interested in fierce, truth-telling, all-seeing love.
That’s the kind of love that says…
~ You are free.
~ You don’t owe me anything.
~ There is absolutely nothing that I want, expect or need from you.
~ Thank you for being my teacher.
It’s the same fierce love that says…
~ I am free.
~ I don’t owe you anything.
~ There is absolutely nothing I can say or do that would transform your experience in any meaningful way. Your resolution will come in you facing you, on your own.
~ I am grateful for the growth. It has blessed me with clarity and strength–in voice and boundaries.
But know this. In my freedom and growth, I am no longer a friendly space for secrets, entitlement, manipulation, control or gas-lighting.
I get it. I understand that all of these are expressions of your own deep wounding and pain. I have compassion. I really do. But here’s the thing — I can’t heal that for you. Only you can. The most supportive thing I can do for both of us is to say, “You don’t get access to me. Not when you bring all of that with you.”
Hard-won wisdom, when it comes down to it, always surprises me in its simplicity. It’s taken half a century of peeling the layers to come to this moment. I am no longer willing to participate in my own oppression.
Of course, it is never really over. There is always more growth, more expanded perspectives. We are never done. Surely, I am not fully liberated from self oppression.
Yet, in this moment, I declare this cycle complete.
With my voice and with this boundary.
And so it is.